How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing-Up

(By a real kid and his step-mom)

Divorce and child custody impact the lives of children in many ways. Of all the challenges the child custody experience impose on children, parenting time or visitation has the longest ongoing impact. Parents working things out in the best interest of their children work very hard to make the children comfortable with the parenting time schedule. When the parents are unable to work things out the courts order parenting time in the child custody orders. This extraordinary young man has found a fine way to work out his feelings and help other children.

My name is Joshua and I have written a book called "How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing-Up." 

I know about this because I have been going to visitation since I was born in October 1991. I have got there by car, van, 18 wheeler truck, train, taxicab and airplane. When I was a baby I didn’t care.

When I got bigger I would cry not to go. My dad would hold me and I would shake and cry. I wasn’t afraid of my mom I just did not want to go away. I wanted everyone I loved to stay around me. I traveled to visitation and home 4 to 6 times a year for the big holidays, spring break and summer.

Later I would get mad because my friends where I lived most of the time would get to do lots of stuff while I was gone. My dad said it was not only a order of the court but it was the right thing to do. It cost my mom and my dad a lot of money and trouble to send me back and forth. I would get upset and worried about going and sometimes I made a big deal out of it. I would say I never wanted to go ever again. Sometimes I would even throw-up.

My mom had to work a lot. I spent most of my time with a baby-sitter and sometimes with my grown-up half-sister and her children. I love my mom and would have a great time with her. I wouldn’t be nervous or worried when I was with her.

Then last summer my mom said she probably would not have the money to have me for the summer. I got really upset. I was surprised because I thought I didn’t want to go. But when I thought I couldn’t go my feelings were hurt. Finally I did get to go for 9 days instead of 42 and I was happy. Now it looks like I won’t get to see her much and I am sad about that. I would like to go and see her when I want to see her. Not when the judge or the money says I can.

Visitation has been a big thing in my life and I hope I can help you with yours. Joshua Shane Evans

The Midwest Book Review   Internet Bookwatch    Volume 12,    Number   1 November 2002

How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing Up is a book for young children about coping with regular visitation to separate parents, especially long-distance visitation. Written in very simple language arising from the point of view of a young boy who had a hard time adjusting to the stress of traveling back and forth to visit his mother, How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing up offers more than just a mere advisory text - it has point-by-point observations, travel safety tips, and numerous fun activities to pass the travel time. How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing Up is highly recommended reading and a great resource for any parent having to take a child on a long distance trip to visit friends and relations.

How To Go To Visitation Without Throwing-Up

ISBN:1587470411